Expanding Your Self-Love Muscle this Valentine's Day Weekend!
Updated: Feb 13
Because I Love Me.
Because Loving Me is enough.
With Valentine’s day approaching, most of us tend to find ourselves in our feels. Whether we are in a relationship, situationship, notsureship or soloship (Ha, see what I did there?), different feelings may come up for us. Some harder to process than others.
So, regardless of the ship you are currently sailing in, I am sure you can use a bit more gratitude & self-love. Listen, we are living in such a hectic world, pushing through our day to day, living through what seems to be our new normal. We keep going, despite it all, because that is truly the only option we have. We is tired! With that said, whether you have someone or someone(s), or no one celebrating you on this day, I encourage you to celebrate YOU! Give yourself some additional tender, love, and care. This year, no matter where you are in the relationship pool, remember to love yourself first. We live in a society where romance and finding true love is often defined as the key to happiness. I say, it is the key! Finding true love within yourself, like truly falling in love with yourself and treating yourself as such, is the key to having a fruitful life. I mean, only then can you foster a healthy relationship with a spouse anyway. Keeping this in mind, we have a new perspective for Valentine’s Day. This year, Valentine’s Day is all about learning how to expand your self-love muscle, as a reminder of the magnificent masterpiece that is yourself!
You are the masterpiece! And although, I know that the theme self-love has been floating around social media, immensely, where it can somewhat feel cliché, truth is, loving yourself is a journey within itself. You are constantly evolving, changing, growing, and maneuvering through different spaces. It is like you have to continue to relearn your needs, who you are and how to truly fall in love with you as a whole! It is never ending! It is not always pretty or easy to process, but it is worth it. You are worth it! I cannot stress that enough, because I am often guilty of putting more energy into caring for others, than myself. I constantly have to remind myself to do a self-check-in on me. To take time for some self-care and reflect on myself as a whole…my needs…my love…My Me!
So, if self-love is defined as “the instinct by which one’s actions are directed to the promotion of one’s own welfare or well-being,” according to Dictionary.com.
Why does self-love take a back seat on Valentine’s Day, a holiday dedicated to celebrating love? Well, the narrative is changing.
Dear MADE Tribe, can we hold ourselves accountable to amplifying self-love on this day?
Here are 10 suggestions on how to amplify self-love which I also bucket with self-care.
Take what you need xoxo, Leonora
Give yourself your flowers: Start each day by telling yourself something positive about yourself. Give yourself your flowers, no need to wait on anyone else send them, literally and figuratively speaking.
Write yourself a love note: Take some time to write down all the things that you admire about yourself. Release the urge to point out your flaws. Your self-doubt muscle may be stronger than your self-love muscle at the moment but focusing on your strengths and your gifts will fuel your mission to create more appreciation and gratitude for yourself.
Know Worth Darling: Look in the mirror and ask yourself “do you know who the f*ck I am”, then start listing qualities unique to you.
Celebrate You!: Celebrate your wins no matter how big or small. Pat yourself on the back and be proud of what you have achieved.
Take Time: Take time to calm your mind every day. Breathe in and out, clear your mind of your thoughts and just be. JUST BE.
Spoil yourself!: Always remember to indulge in things that create passion and excitement in your life. These are the things that fuel you to consistently function at your best and flood you with good energy.
Create a positive mantra!: We all have an ongoing internal script that we sometimes are not even aware of. Become mindful of your inner voice and guide it to choose loving messages whenever the negativity starts to creep in. Some empowering mantras are: “I love and accept myself always” or “Self -love is my birthright” or “I am valuable.”
Tune in: Tune into yourself. Check in with yourself, to connect to whatever it is that you need to be, feel, or do in that moment. This will set the tone for your day and activate a presence of love that you can carry with you always.
Forgive yourself!: Excuse yourself for all the times that you may have lost a significant piece of yourself to find another. Deeply forgiving past mistakes and misjudgments in your past relationships will help you cultivate an open heart that is ready for new experiences.
It's Your World: Do whatever it is that you want to do! Release yourself from the fears that are holding you back from living your best life. It is only when you try new things, the universe can create new spaces of opportunity and experiences.
Because I Love Me.
Because Loving Me is Enough.