Updated: Oct 15, 2021
Since we've been talking about red flags all over social media, I felt like this topic was only suiting to address. Stay with me, it'll make sense as you read.
When Ashanti said "I thought by staying, trying to change you would be worth it babe,
But now I see that trying to change you only changed me," I felt that.
I think that being in love is both beautiful and dangerous. It's a different level of vulnerability, letting someone see the many layers of you. Letting down your guards and trusting in your partner to hold you down. Realistically, you don't fully experience the depths of your relationship unless you allow yourself to fall. Unless you allow yourself to trip, stumble, walk, jog, run, into a space of openness with the person you are in love with. It's the fall for me.
Love is Beautiful and Dangerous at the same time.
I think as women, once we allow ourselves to fall, we often fall hard.
We tend to ignore the red flags that presents itself in our relationship, because the good parts, feel good. We know that as women, we have the capability to mold and smooth out the cracks. There are things that you perceive to be "fixable" and things that are "tolerable".
It's important to know the difference and not confuse the two.
It's the construction site complex for me.